The first kind of guy may have a father who is very overinvolved and domineering, making decisions for him and making his life “too easy.” This is like the lawyer who insists his son has to be one too – or he won’t respect (or love) him as much. What most guys go through are in three phases, sometimes “arresting” on just one and going through a whole lot of negativity for a looong time. What Freud and others who talk about the need to “kill the father to become a man” means, is that a guy has to someday, succeed his own dad, and become the alpha of the family. The topic was the importance of KILLING THE FATHER, using the new film, Wanted, as a story backdrop on our learning about male initiation and the cultivation of Mature Masculine Power. Tonight’s teleseminar was off the hook with insight and discussion. You need to not fear this word or its companion word, DEATH, in order to be fully effective in your life. If you learn to “kill,” you’ll start to “kill it” at your career mission, and you’ll someday “make a killing” financially as a SIDE EFFECT, not the starting goal.īefore any unstable Jeffrey Dahmer types start sharpening their knives (and I’m sure there aren’t any true unstables out there), it’s symbolic. Chances are at some point you will have to end a relationship in the future too.īut you can’t “kill things” if you fear “death.”
I teach you all about how to get out of what’s WRONG for you and into what’s RIGHT for you in terms of a woman in the Omega Male Seminar on 21CDs. Maybe you have had to cut off a relationship with a woman. The dog is dying, so you have to kill it. But I did it anyway.īut I had to kill them… the poor relationships that is. They are very important and powerful, mind you.
I approached three men who have not honored my identity or the value I have brought their lives, and said, “It’s dead.” It is interesting that he deals with the theme that many men face in following one's dreams, or fulfilling your father's dreams.Īnd Dr. Paul Dobransky, and subscribe to his email newsletters. So as some of you may know Im a big fan of Dr. You are responsible for being able to discern good advice from a good source, and bad advice from a bad source.
One who experiences something, is not necessarily an EXPERT on the subject matter. Having EXPERIENCE in a circumstance, is NOT the SAME as HAVING EXPERTISE. The true teacher/ mentor/guide seeks to EDUCATE, NOT INDOCTRINATE.īe wary of those who wish to SILENCE others, to not offer opposing views, and seek to DOMINATE ALL conversation in the matter. Please understand two MAJOR concepts you MUST take away from this: Unless you are a cynical, narcissistic sociopath.īe careful of what you put in your MINDS.Īnd dont be told that using your intuition and discernement are wrong So, you listen to that loud voice telling you that it is 'weak' and 'femenine' and 'not Alpha' to be courteous, or have feelings, and be sensitive, comapssionate, and be an honorable man.Īnd then you have no happiness or true fulfillment and satisfaction. It most often times is not THE CORRECT Voice TO listen to. but that doesnt mean that the LOUDEST Voice is the one TO LISTEN TO. Oftentimes, the LOUDEST voice is the one listened to. So you come to a place like this, or other reosurces, where there are also many misguided men looking for answers. You may not have a good sens of Self, or identity, or values right now. These males are uninitiated, and completely at a loss to what IS true honorable behavior from a mature, masculine man. Dont be one of those no moral code, no honor, and no respect males that seem to prowl the world. In a society that does not realy reward high character, and with so much external reinforcement, and so MANY people Rationalizing and Justifying their low class behavior, it really is no wonder young men today have NO IDEA what to do, where to go, and just what the Hell they should be doing with their lives, and their limited time.ĭOnt be one of those rationalizing, justifying ass holes. Much less do most men today even recognize the VALUE of High Character. It IS common that most men go about their lives flailing about, with no direction, identity, or solid healthy VALUES. Well, it is common that people focus on the external. And we see it reinforced with so many people, that we think it is NORMAL. Many of us focus so much on the external, and temporary form, that we lose sight of within. It is difficult to forge a true identity. Not sure of which way to go, I often get PMs asking me for advice on following their heart or following someone else's advice on living and becoming a Man. I often come across many many threads here from men looking for guidance, and trying to make sense of their lives.